Make thread/channel/message deletion complete (hard delete)

Deleting a thread, channel, or message was a no-op/soft-delete: messages
were only dropped from the plugin outbox (still in hermes' session store,
hence searchable/recoverable) and channels/threads were merely archived.

Now deletion is complete and non-recoverable, with no search trace:

- purge.py (new): hard-delete from hermes' session store (state.db).
  delete_lane wipes a channel's/thread's sessions + messages; deleting a
  messages row also drops it from the FTS5 index via the delete triggers.
  delete_message removes one message, matched by (session, role, exact
  content, closest timestamp) since plugin m_<hex> ids aren't persisted.
- channels.py: delete() hard-deletes the row (and a channel's child
  threads) instead of archiving.
- outbox.py: add delete_lane() (wipe all frames for a lane) and
  message_info() (read a message's final role/text/ts for the match).
- adapter.py: on_channel_delete wipes outbox + session store;
  on_message_delete purges the session-store row per message.
- App: delete confirmations no longer claim history stays for search;
  ChannelStore removes a channel's threads on channel delete.
- Docs updated to describe hard deletion.

gateway-plugin/protocol.py

@@ -556,7 +556,7 @@ def channel_renamed(entry: dict[str, Any]) -> Frame:
 
 
 def channel_deleted(chat_id: str) -> Frame:
-    """Broadcast: a channel was archived (soft-deleted)."""
+    """Broadcast: a channel or thread was deleted (its history wiped too)."""
     return Frame(type=TYPE_CHANNEL_DELETED, payload={"chat_id": chat_id})